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Spider & Lugosi R.I.P. Pages from their Book of Memories

In order to deal with my grief over losing my sweet, gentle boy Spider to cancer on 2nd September 2017, I have started a “Book of Memories” as suggested in the very helpful publication “Soul Comfort for Cat Lovers“. This is a creative way to write down all the cute and funny moments that you have of your furbaby, to which you can then come back to in later times/years. 

Memories do fade over time, so I started this a few days after his passing while things about him are still very fresh in my mind. It helps work through my feelings of loss over him and turn something so incredibly sad into something beautiful, loving and creative. 

Update March 2019:
I was heartbroken again that on 9th March 2019, I had to send Spider’s brother Lugosi to the Rainbow Bridge. Lugosi had suffered a stroke that left his legs paralysed and his blink reflex was also not working anymore, and I had to make the hardest decision again, but this time I didn’t get a chance to prepare, like I had with Spider. I took him to the vet, and when I was told (and realised myself) that there was nothing more that could be done for him, and that the kindest thing was to not let him suffer, I said goodbye to him there and then. He left this world quickly and peacefully, with me holding him and talking into his fur (because he has been deaf for a few years), telling him that I loved him, always. 

I have changed Spider’s Book of Memories to be Spider & Lugosi’s Book of Memories, because I feel that the twins, who have been together their whole life, should also be together in this book. I have not written Lugosi’s pages yet, but as soon as I start I will add them here. 

Now the Tabby Twins are together again at last…. thank you both for having been the best thing in my life ever. I miss you and love you forever. 

Browse the Photo Gallery of Pages from the Spider & Lugosi’s Book of Memories

 

I wrote and recorded the song “What Shall I Do Without You” in this memorial video a long time ago (mid 90s), but the lyrics and feel of it seemed fitting for the intense grief I experienced over losing my sweet Spider (and now Lugosi too).